Thursday, May 20, 2010
Sometimes I wish I had cancer. Then people would understand that I am sick and in pain and fighting for my life with this disease. It would be more socially acceptable to have cancer.
Depression is so poorly understood, especially among the Christian community. It is seen as a “lack of faith” or a personal downfall, neither of which is true.
Depression is painful, debilitating and very lonely. People don’t know what to say to someone who has depression, so most of the time they say nothing, which adds to the loneliness.
Most illnesses lead to an outpouring of support from family, friends and even total strangers. There are care pages and in Indiana they put up signs in peoples yards saying ‘Pray for _____’ who is sick. It’s different with depression. WHY? I’ve now lost 9 weeks of my life to this terrible illness. My family is hurting. My kids are missing their mom. My husband is bearing the burden of being both dad and mom to the kids as he too is hurting.
Today I am feeling lonely. I know Jesus is always here with me and that comforts me.
I have the terrible disadvantage of having depression in a place where I know almost no one, further adding to my loneliness.
Early on, someone brought a meal and came to see me. She climbed into my bed next to me and said nothing and by doing so, spoke volumes. It’s not about having the right words to say but instead about the act of reaching out.
I’m not asking for sympathy. I’m asking you to be empathetic with the next person that you know who has depression. Try to put yourself in their shoes. How would you want to be treated?